The Power of the Possible is a recipient of An Honorable Mention at the June 2008 New York City Book Festival Awards.
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"The Power of the Possible will touch your soul and open your heart to new dimensions of love and healing."
~ John Gray, Author of the international bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
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Frequently Asked Questions
-Why is it that the harder we try to get someone to change, the more they resist us?
-Why is it that when we finally give up and “leave people to their own devices,” they suddenly change on their own, doing exactly what we were asking them to do for so long?
-Are you saying that by trying to get somebody else to change we are keeping them from changing? Preventing them from doing what we are asking them to do? How does it work?
-Does it mean that the only way to change someone is to stop trying to change them?
-What do you mean when you say “rescuers get slaughtered” every time?
-Explain what you call “the law of resonance” and how it affects our life and our relationships.
-What do you mean when you say that “surrender is a transcendent state” and that “the powerlessness is perhaps the most powerful state of all?” Isn’t it better to be powerful and not have to surrender?
-In the story about the son forgiving his abusive father, what allowed the change in the father? Why did the father suddenly decide to go to the rehab and stop drinking? The son never said a word about it, nor did he say that he had forgiven the father? What happened?
-talk about the idea that “we can grow thru pain or we can grow thru love, but we shall grow either way.” What do you mean by that?
-You write about the importance of accepting yourself and you give the 4 principles of self acceptance. Isn’t it contrary to our desire to grow and change? If we accept ourselves just the way we are then all the wrong things we are doing become OK, don’t they? Can you explain what you mean?
- You are saying than “give and take” doesn’t work and only “give and give” does. You are saying to give 100% and to take zero. This will raise a lot of eyes brows. Please, talk about it.
- Explain the 4 Principles of Synergy and how they can be used in a relationship.
-You are saying that “it may only take our ego a minute to destroy what has taken us a lifetime to create”. That’s a very strong statement. Please, give me an example of what you mean.
-“Love me they way I want to be loved, not the way you want to love me”. This is both obvious, and yet – so hard to do for so many. Why do you think it is so?
-So you don’t believe in soul mates? And yet the way you describe your relationship, you two are definitely soul mates. Everyone is hoping to find a soul mate. What is it you are saying?
-In the chapter “Till Death Do You Part” you are taking on one of our most sacred cows. Marriage. And marriage vows! You are not against marriage, but you are against the marriage vows. Isn’t it a contradiction?
-So pre-nuptials are OK?
-But we love the marriage promise. It is such a beautiful promise. If you take it away what will be the foundation of a marriage? What will be the meaning? Beyond the legal contract?
-So you believe that getting married is a step to greater freedom, not “losing your freedom” like some people think. How do you see it?
-You talk about commitment and promise and the difference between them. Please, explain.
-Your message is “we can stop being right and start being happy” How can we stop being right in a situation where we are absolute sure that we ARE right? Should we just capitulate for the sake of so called “peace?”Won’t this leave us feeling resentful? Isn’t it important that our partner understands our position, so that we won’t have a repeat of the same situation?
-Please explain the difference between resignation and surrender.
-Most people believe that it is a good idea to talk and communicate your feelings so that you can get your partner to see your point. Are you saying we shouldn’t talk?
-What are the 2 “rules” for a relationship?